Satisfaction Allows for Multiplication and Prevents Fortification

John Eldredge wrote a great book called “Way of the Wild Heart” which details stages of development and how they inter-relate one to the other. For example, young men usually require satisfaction of what Eldredge calls a “cowboy” stage. This is a time where the young man seeks adventure to know inside of himself that he is capable. Once this question is answered, he doesn’t have to wonder if he has what it takes to fight and survive when faced with a battle to fight. He is able, through experience, to walk with confidence which eliminates insecure over-reactions.

Problems arise when those questions go unanswered yet we progress in life to positions of greater responsibility. We often progress into what Eldredge calls the “king” stage where there are positions of leadership and responsibility. We’ve likely all seen the effects of a “leader” who is insecure and “leads” with fear. They are not prepared to walk in the position they have been promoted into because they did not naturally satisfy the internal questions to prepare them.

I started practicing law as a second career and had to cycle back to the beginning; went from running a company generating significant revenues to sharing an office with two desks and two paralegals. So three of us with only two desks and I knew less than they did about how most everything worked. If they were both present and busy, I had nowhere to sit.

Nice big cup full of humility to drink from did me good. I’m thankful for that time. That time was necessary as a foundation for what is and is to come. If I had tried to self-promote or refused to walk through what was before me, the foundation would not have been as solid.

Fear and control are enemies of leadership. They are also fruit of insecurity. Security comes from within; not from promotions or the accumulation of stuff. When you know who you are and Who it is that promotes and provides, the temptation to manipulate for your protection is set aside. The understanding of His faithfulness comes by the experience of His provision in the risk of trusting Him. Life lived dependent on Him and not you allows for the questions to be settled from within.

Leaders promote others because they aren’t promoting themselves. Insecurity will prevent or limit the freedom necessary for the release of others as the temptation will be to fortify more than multiply. Insecure kings build and adorn their castles while secure kings release and multiply the Kingdom of the King through others.

The Road Goes on Forever

Our freedom is entirely dependent on our willingness to sacrifice our preferences to the objective truth. We can’t generate our own sense of liberty from our desires. Those desires are often legitimate indicators of our design, but the context they are created for is submission to the Father as sons and daughters. Any application outside of the family of God is an application of a prodigal headed towards disastrous consequences.

We don’t maintain freedom from an occurance; we nurture freedom as an alignment. Without the alignment of submission to truth, we will steer back into the dominion of sin and/or the burden of the law from our fallen state. The alignment is a realization and reminder that Jesus is Who He says He is and we are who He says we are. Not because we are doing good, feeling good, wanting good or any other subjective measure. It is true because He is Truth.

Recently, I had the honor of accepting the position of Executive Director at Fellowship of the Sword. At Fellowship of the Sword, we facilitate events that serve as a catalyst to set hearts in healthy rhythm. Hearts are not set in healthy rhythm from our teaching or program; they are set in healthy rhythm by encountering the Truth of Jesus. It’s between Him and those that seek Him. He is the One that changes things.

That encounter, the freedom born of it and the transformation is all temporary unless nurtured and maintained. The nurturing and maintenance takes place in the local church. The community of believers that you plug into is intended to sharpen, encourage and comfort when you have been tempted toward subjective distractions from the objective truth. Without community to call out our blind spots and without willingness to live with others in a way that is vulnerable to inspection, any freedom we have tasted will be a fleeting experience.

I believe in the catalyst. The jump-start is powerful. The transformation is real.

I also know that I know that the catalyst requires the context of the church in order for the benefit to be sustainable.

I am so honored and thankful to get to do the stuff that I do. God is good and He is faithful and the journey from “there” to “here” has not been easy, nor is this the end of the road. In the words of Robert Earl Keen, “the road goes on forever and the party never ends.” While my application of his lyrics differ from his, we apparently can agree on the truth of the eternal journey. Enjoy the ride, and don’t travel alone.

Broken Bread Today Feeds Us Tomorrow

We can sit where we are or accept the invitation into more that comes at the cost of the comfort we enjoy in the predictability of the present. Where we will step into the discomfort of the new, we will have to rely on Him for comfort as well as faithfulness in the most recent expressions of our developing faith. In other words, when He puts in a position to depend on Him, we get to choose. The idea of new and dependence can sound just fine until the reality of the discomfort is tangible and not theoretical.

When we get to the next boundaries of our control, we’ll need to depend on Jesus like we did the last time it felt like this. Thankfully, because there was a last time, we can lean on that experience for assurance that He did it before and He’ll do it again. He’ll get us through this and if we’ll endure just a little longer, the promise of His glory always follows the discomfort of His invitations. Joy comes in the morning.

The original disciples were invited to follow Jesus and they gave up everything to do so. They walked with Him for three years, witnessing and participating in miracles and challenges as He increasingly equipped and released them. Then He was crucified and they didn’t get it. He rose from the dead and made Himself known to them, but they didn’t recognize Him until they remembered the last time.

Luke 24:30-31 says “When he was at the table with them, he took bread, gave thanks, broke it and began to give it to them. Then their eyes were opened and they recognized him, and he disappeared from their sight.”

He had done this before on the night before He died. By doing this again, He reminded them of the thing before. They were together and enjoying a meal. He used the bread to tell of what was going to happen to Him and now He uses the bread to quicken their senses to new belief. He uses the previous experience to get them through the current reality.

Following Jesus is intended as a life of experiences with HIm. In the experiences, reminders are born that will be useful for the next time. We go from glory to glory, leaving one to get to the next at the cost of the comfort that we have grown accustomed to in the former. Along the way, He’ll break bread with us to remind us that He is Who He says He is and He’ll do what He says He’ll do. Just like the last time.

 

The Visible Comes From the Invisible; Do You See It?

There are all kinds of clues, but we have to pay attention. We can see beyond the veil, and the traces of evidence that get us there are in plain sight. Look around and you’ll see God.

While the Kingdom of God is invisible, faith is tangible. As such, the evidence of the Kingdom of God is going to show up in very tangible ways. If we aren’t looking for them, we’ll miss them even when they are right in front of our faces.

When asked of the greatest commandment, Jesus said it was to love God with everything that’s in you but He didn’t stop there. He went on to say that just as important was to love other people as you love yourself. It’s hard to know what’s in us; we can be deceived by our own intentions. It’s easier, however, to work from the outside – in to know things that are deeper.

Jesus said to love others. How are you with others? How are others with you? How are others with others? Not for the purpose of judgment, but for the purpose of identification. Do you see the Kingdom in the way that interactions with people unfold? If not, there is no need to panic; it’s simply an opportunity to invite the Kingdom. “On earth as it is in Heaven.”

The limitation we have regarding our capacity to love people is the degree to which we love ourselves. How well do you love yourself? What habits affirm or challenge your perception of your opinion of yourself? Do you take care of you? Are your words truth or slander? The easiest way to know is when something goes wrong.

The supernatural will reveal itself in natural ways. When we pay attention to the words, actions, options and choices going on all around us, we can ask for eyes to see beyond the obvious. What is God orchestrating and how can we agree with Him in what He may be inviting us into? If we’ll pay attention, we’ll see it and know.

The Christian life is not intended to be perfectly arranged and figured out, like career management. It’s a relationship with a King that is about the expansion of His Kingdom. We get to agree with Him as agents of that Kingdom if we’ll pay attention. His written Word is the framework for our perspective which adds depth of understanding to the things we are able to observe.

When we know the truth, the truth can set us free. Free to be included in the greatest mystery and adventure ever known to man. When we pay attention.

Fear Produces Control Where Love Allows for Wisdom

The other day, I was talking to one of my kids and decided to give them some counsel about some things to look out for. From all appearances, it could be viewed as pretty good parenting. Maybe, to some degree, it was. The problem wasn’t so much the counsel I was giving, it was the driver I was reacting to.

I realized later that night and into the next morning that the reason I chose to speak into the situation (which wasn’t really a situation yet, just the thought of what might become) was that I was afraid. Fear had driven me to warn and counsel where there was an imagination of what might be someday, somehow. Fear is not a healthy driver.

I could have given the exact same advice in the exact same situation and been doing it from love, but I wasn’t. Not this time, anyway. That next morning, I realized the distinction and spent time in prayer receiving the Father’s love. His love casts out fear. I prayed to realize His love for me and for my family, too. His love is the perfect driver.

When our children are small, we have a greater chance of controlling the environments they are exposed to and protecting them from potential threats. Increasingly, however, as they grow they are exposed to the potential of danger and evil as they mature in their ability to relate beyond the controlled environments of their youth. That’s scary. The stuff out there that is intended for their harm is real and active in its pursuit.

We can’t control everything for our kids for ourselves and, at the same time, we don’t have to be afraid. The control we thought we had was a bit of an illusion in the first place as we can never control all possible circumstances to mitigate all possible threats.

We have to rely on love, and not only our love, but the love of the Father. It’s His love that supersedes our fears and feeds our wisdom when we operate from healthy emotions. Unhealthy emotions like fear and worry won’t allow for wisdom as they seek to control. Healthy reactions like trust and faith from knowing the love of the Father gives way to His wisdom in where the boundaries need to be drawn and allows Holy Spirit to counsel us situation by situation.

Turning Insecurities into Security

freeIf you are interested in whether or not you are insecure, allow for new circumstances in your life. Where there is a new environment or new challenges, there are new insecurities that get exposed. These new circumstances can be as mundane as a new team member or a change in plans from what was expected or routine. In those changes, the questions arise which lay dormant until stirred up.

  • What if they don’t like me?
  • Do they notice me?
  • What is my place?
  • Why does that person get to do that instead of me?
  • How can I get promoted?
  • What if I fail?
  • Am I going to lose stuff I value?

The realization that things are out of our control is a gift that leads us to the end of us. When we get a glimpse at our limitations, we begin to realize our potential. We are, in fact, designed for great and glorious things but it’s not our responsibility to make those things happen. We simply agree. Insecurity offers the opportunity to become secure.

Walking out a life of faith is walking out a life of relationship. The relationship is with the Father and the Father doesn’t want us to run ahead and do stuff “for” Him or even to “be used” by Him. He invites us to receive and be included. When we rest in that reality, we know the peace of security.

Even when we “get it,” that realization is limited by the prodigals of our soul which haven’t returned to the Father’s love and supply. There are parts of us the think we can make better decisions and produce better outcomes. Until those parts of us decide to head home to the love and rest of the Father’s estate, we strive and toil from an insecure place.

He’ll invite us into new things and those new things are for His glory and the advancement of His Kingdom. The fact that we are invited and included affirms our place in Him but those invitations also reveal the places within us that have not yet submitted to Him. If we will live the life of challenge and adventure that comes with a faith filled calling, we will enjoy the transformative process of redemption which turns our insecurities into security in Him.