Julie and I have increasingly gotten involved in speaking into marriages. We’ve spent quite a bit of time away this year with that sole focus. There have been some great stories of redemption and reconciliation that, at times, have been miraculous. As we have invested in other people’s marriages, we’ve had to do quite a bit of work on our marriage, as well.
Things in our marriage have been stirred up and we’ve had to work through things that aren’t always fun or comfortable. Sometimes that happens right in the middle of the times that we are ministering in the marriages of other people. Some of the ministry to the others is “real-time” as we realize things for ourselves.
Since our marriage isn’t perfect and we are having to work on things, ourselves, there is a temptation to believe that we shouldn’t be working with others in this area. That temptation is a lie as there are no perfect ministers. If we all wait until we reach perfection to share our imperfection, there would be no ministry at all.
The things that we think may invalidate us are the exact things that validate us. Our flaws are in need of grace and grace is Jesus. Where we are not afraid to admit that our salvation is being worked out and live transparently where weakness isn’t a disqualification, Jesus will be on display. Jesus will minister through us.
Marriage ministry, men’s ministry, church ministry or any other kind of ministry is not validated by the superior knowledge or training of a guy, it’s validated by the display of Jesus. Where we are weak, He is strong so if we’ll admit what everyone probably knows anyway, then He can do the stuff He is good at through us.
The Apostle Paul wrote, “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” (Romans 7:15). He led with transparency, not allowing his failures in keeping the rules to be disqualifiers. His qualifier was the grace and sacrifice of Jesus.
Don’t be afraid to serve others through your imperfect faith. Just be real and honest about the places where you start and He ends, to put His grace on display through your imperfections. Your qualifications are rubbish compared to His glory. Put His glory on display, not your ability.