Ashes, Ashes . . .

Some things matter, no matter how much society refuses to acknowledge the depth of their impact. The Homer Simponization of fathers and sitcom disintegration of families works out in 30 minute segments, not so much in real life. The devastation of individual lives in the wake of fatherlessness will continue to be felt in the lives of children and grandchildren for generations following the abandonment.

DominoI spent time with a young lady recently as she told her story. It was a life riddled with drugs and destruction culminating in a long prison sentence and the loss of her children. It all started, according to her, when her parents split. She recounts with great detail that the pain she felt as a pre-teen was so intense that she chose hard drugs over even the hope offered in attempting a rehab. Note that was “pre-teen.”

Later in the same day I met a young man who had been suffering seizures since his dad walked out. Literally, the night that his father left, he seized for the first time and has suffered seizures many times since then. Same night. Coincidence?

Fatherlessness breeds heartache at a level which is not comprehensible. The emotional and even physical reaction to the abandonment by the one that was intended to watch over our soul cries out for relief. We cannot easily compensate for the trauma of the leaving.

The children of the first lady that I described were already having physical and emotional problems. One of them had an “anger problem.” Of course he does. And it started with the leaving of his grandfather impacting his mother and now effecting him because of her bad choices made from a broken heart.

Some might read this and dismiss the connection or anecdotally explain that they came from a broken family or absent father or something similar and “look at me, I did what I needed and turned out just fine.” Well, maybe, but maybe that isn’t as easy for others. Some are just wired to feel differently, maybe even feel more. Some are just designed to lead with emotion and passion rather than logic and reasoning. The value of that type of creativity is self-evident but the pain is felt that much more intensely.

There’s only one Cure, there’s only one Remedy. Jesus restores us to the Father that none would be orphans. He takes the broken patterns of destructive relationship and replaces them with His promise of reconciliation. He softens the hardened hearts of the broken-hearted and restores the health of their soul to align with the adoption initiated by His Spirit.

3 thoughts on “Ashes, Ashes . . .

  1. Scott;
    I work in an environment that by what you wrote paints a clearer picture as to why some of the people act or act out in that particular environment/society. Although not all behaviors or conduct or health problems are not answered with the given passage. Some just rely on their surroundings and people surrounding them for answers to life and even guidance through life.
    I work in an area that is surrounded by churches(practically one on every corner). There is also as much politics and corruption and violence. Some days it seems that the people I encounter expect handouts and freebies from our government all while praising The Lord. One would believe that if the so called “believers” had that much faith that they wouldn’t have to reach out to the government to get by. But instead believe in “Gods way” and prayer to help them through life.
    I feel for people that choose to live that way. I am not a super religious person. I don’t own a bible or go to church. However I do believe in God and believe prayer works. It worked for a friend that needed the prayers to get him through a tough time while in the hospital. I thank you Mr. Pricket for the passages you post. They shed light on explanations sought after in today’s society for me. Thank you for your time, devotion, and ability to spread the good word.
    Wes
    Father, husband and firefighter/nremt

    • Thanks, Wes, I really appreciate your comment. The flaws of the human condition, even among the religious, cannot be denied. Some of us are more messed up than others, for sure. I am still working things out for myself and am glad that you are benefitting from this blog. Call or write anytime; thanks again!

      Scott

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