Lucky Charms are a staple in our home. We seldom visit the grocery store without picking up a box. They are great for breakfast or an end of the day snack to satisfy the cravings of a sweet tooth.
Let’s face it, though, nobody buys the Lucky Charms for the oat things that make up the majority of the product. The appeal of Lucky Charms is the marshmallow like sweet treats among the rest of the stuff. In fact, my four-year old son Haynes will sit and pick only the marshmallows out, leaving the rest. His dad may have done that a time or too, also.
We really try to pick out the marshmallows in our life much more than we would admit. We just don’t have much appetite for the things that surround the good stuff. We often even develop a mindset that leads us to believe we deserve only the best tasting treats without tolerance for anything which might distract us from those things.
“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.” Matthew 13:44.
He bought the whole field. Rocks, weeds, bumps, ruts and ditches included. The treasure was part of it, but in contrast to the field, it was just a fraction of what was produced. Yet, even with all of the extra “field” stuff, the man was motivated by the joy of finding the treasure of the kingdom.
The fields in our lives manifest in all kinds of challenges with situations but one of the most obvious is in the relationships we enjoy. We know people that we like and respect, but the more that we know them, the more we realize how flawed they are. When we see the junk in people, or they see it in us, we have to decide whether or not we are going to accept the field in order to enjoy the treasure.
All too often, we excuse ourselves from the hard work of relationship based on the perceived flaws in others. Even if we don’t end the relationship altogether, we condition it with boundaries which protect us from experiencing the fullness of the field. We become satisfied with the little bit of treasure we have found, but if we keep digging there will be more. Just might hit a few rocks between here and there.