Two becoming one is more about receiving than it is trying. All too often, in marriage and other areas of potential growth, we work as hard as we can to be as good as we can be. The striving is frustrating as our best efforts give way to our limitations. The insidious scheme which we all too often fall prey to is to exhaust our efforts and fail “in the name of Jesus.” Then, we look back and erroneously think He didn’t come through.
This isn’t about trying. It’s about receiving. When He promises us things, it isn’t for the purpose of giving us a goal to shoot for. He didn’t die for us to establish a new target. He said, very simply, “it is finished.” Finished means finished.
We are who He says we are. I can’t be one with Julie until I realize who I am through Jesus. I can’t be who I am through Jesus by working real hard to be Jesus. In the Kingdom, things are often counter-intuitive; to gain, we give up . . . to live, we die.
So the choice is one of giving up and simply allowing Him to do what He does in us. This is so much easier said than done. Even when typing or reading this, we will want to figure out the application. “What do I need to do to do that?” I don’t know.
I don’t know what that looks like for you and, many days, I’m not sure what it looks like for me. It’s just being. In the being, I seek Him. I don’t seek to do stuff for Him, I just seek Him. When I seek Him, I’ll find Him and know who I am in relationship to Him.
It’s a journey of persistent seeking that is predicated on our submission to a God that we can’t see. It’s a matter of trust and allowing Him to work in us and around us. Then it’s having eyes to see that He does what He said He would do.
When we rest in what He has already done, we are postured to be yielded not only to Lordship, but also to receiving the inheritance He has for us which is rooted in our adoption. When we walk in that identity, we walk in confidence of who we are which makes a way for us to give away who we are without fear of losing our inheritance. When we each give it all away, as was designed in marriage, we are one.