During our first meeting in my office, I realized that the task at hand for this particular client wasn’t as legal as it was something different. Her legal situation, while not particularly egregious, was grim. She had been convicted of a misdemeanor and was appealing the conviction as she wanted desperately to clear her record.
As she sat and poured out her problems, I eventually put my pen down and just listened. The facts surrounding the accusation were simple and the legal defense took just a minute to consider. The chances of winning were slim, at best. The facts surrounding the rest of her life were not nearly as simple. Without going into detail, she had taken some pretty tough hits in life and the result was financial stress, health problems and the challenge of raising two children on her own.
During that consultation, I told her how we would handle her case. As importantly, I tried to give her something to get a hold of for her to begin to handle her life, as well. Simple encouragement that brought Hope and perspective. The Truth of who she was without the shame and guilt she had been piling on herself for some time now. Just pointing out her positives and calling her vision to the Truth of the Hope of tomorrow. Probably most of all, no judgment or condemnation but recognition of her Value.
I’m not bragging and didn’t do anything special. I just met her where she was with things that had been given to me by others. You can’t give away what you don’t have and I have been given plenty. It’s our job to give it away.
We went to trial and lost. We tried – threw a legitimate legal argument at a legitimate legal problem. It was a long shot, though, and I was a little concerned about my client’s confidence and outlook as we left the courtroom.
I started to debrief her in the hallway and she interrupted me. She said, “Mr. Prickett, I am as full of Hope right now as I have been in a long time. When I came to your office, I was scared and defeated but you were kind to me. Nobody has said the nice things that you said to me in my entire life. Those words were exactly what I needed to hear.” I listened and watched as a single tear rolled down her cheek. She went on to share that she had signed up for college classes even though “it may take forever to get my degree, but I’m going to be moving forward with positive steps to keep my mind off of my problems.”
There is more to this thing we do, whatever it is we do, than the stuff that we do. Sometimes we just have to stop what we’re doing, put our pen down, and agree with the Life that is barely hanging on in the soul of another. Our agreement with Life in the life of another won’t fix all of their immediate problems but it might just get things going the right direction.