Sometimes it’s entertaining to see how people behave themselves in the courtroom. They stand before a judge who has the ability to decide things that can impact their lives in very real ways and they occasionally lose their minds. It seems to me that if someone doesn’t know how to conduct themselves in a formal setting like a courtroom while in front of a legitimate authority such a judge, then how in the world can they operate in the rest of the world.
Many people get into court and, first and foremost, want to be heard. No matter what their attorney might tell them or how the proceeding might be shaping out in their favor without their two cents worth, the need to be heard will sometimes overcome people to the point that they talk with nothing to gain. Many of them are paying attorneys sizable amounts of money to talk for them and have been advised that it is not good to talk too much, but know deep inside that if the judge can just hear them then they will solve this whole situation.
A quick tongue and an incessantly overactive mouth really isn’t a benefit at all. It’s a benefit to be able to clearly communicate but a large part of that is knowing when and to what degree. What, then, causes us to talk our way into trouble in relationships, business, courtrooms or wherever?
My suspicion is that it is often a feeling that we would be approved of and believed if only we could make our perspective known. This is often times driven by people’s self-perspective that they didn’t necessarily mean harm in the things that they have said and done. They allowed mistakes to build up or circumstances to get out of control to the point that there became a problem. But the problem was never intended, it was a product of one consequence built on another. So to explain away the resulting mess, we engage our perspective and even sincerity as we seek redemption from the mess.
It usually doesn’t work, though. The mess is just too great and the desired empathy and sympathy for our position often times gives way to the reality of responsibility. We stand convicted over the sincere cries of innocence among evidence of guilt.
If we allow Redemption simply to call us, waiting on the forgiveness and acceptance that can only come in our silence, the self-incrimination will stop. When we trust an Advocate and the reality that there is sufficient Grace even in the middle of suffering through consequences, then our need to self-promote gives way to comfortable trust.